Have a Dream and Cling to it!

Visualise your dream. It's the first step towards making it come true. Imagine all the details of this vision in your mind. Go to sleep with a picture of it in front of your eyes. Discover what's important in your life. What do you really want? Live for the day, but cling to your dream, as it is the manifestation of your desire. Don't worry how you'll get there. Don't think about obstacles, just keep your focus on the end result. Let go of inner resistance, and believe that you deserve to create the reality that you're imagining right now.
Have a beautiful day,
Isa.

It's Easy to Be Happy!

Sometimes I take myself too seriously, and I take life too seriously. Everything seems so big and frightening. I feel overwhelmed at the thought of tasks ahead.

The house is a mess, so much shopping needs to be done to fill the fridge for five children.

They always need something for school or for their other activities, such as soccer and horse riding. A new pair of boots, a new helmet, another soccer kit. The list never ends. But does it really matter? We live such a good life. We have everything we need. Nutritious food, a nice home, good health and education. We can thank God every day that we're so lucky. And like Jesus on this picture, we can decide to laugh instead of crying.

Relationships are not always smooth, but we need to remember that no one is perfect. If I accept my partner exactly as he is, without trying to change him, it will be a lot easier for us to get along.

My work is not the most exciting, but it's what I make out of it. I can appreciate what I've got every day, every hour, every minute, instead of wishing I could be somewhere else, doing something different. Of course, I can always better myself, but if I don't love my cicumstances now, I will never attract what I'm hoping for. Negative thoughts attract more negative circumstances, but positive thoughts always attract positive circumstances.

So it's important to lighten up! Have a laugh! Look at the funny side of things, and don't worry, everything will be allright.

Every day, we can choose whether we want to struggle or whether we prefer to dance through life...

The Well of Wisdom

Imagine a bottemless water well. This is your subconscious, your inner being, the source of all your wisdom, inspiration and intuition. It's a treasure that you can access at any time, and the water from this well never runs out.
Take your bucket to the well. Drop it in and see what comes up. Send down your empty bucket, or put a question in it. Your answer is sure to come.
Don't work on it, don't think about it. Whatever your problem is, there is always a solution.
Trust this bottomless well. It's always there for you, loyal and reliable like a good friend. You just need to let go of the bucket, let it dip in the water, and gently lift it up, without effort.
Best wishes for today and always,
Isa.

Affirmations

Compose your affirmation in the present.

Make sure there are no indirect negatives (for instance: instead of saying:

"I will not get angry any more", say:"I am always in control of

my emotions")

Write the affirmation down on paper and stick it on your fridge,

or any other visible spot.

Carry it in your mind wherever you go.

Take some deep and calm breaths when you do your affirmation.

Some examples:

"I believe in myself"

"I believe in my potential"

"I am confident, relaxed and focused"

"I am peaceful"

"I am in harmony with my environment"

"I am full of energy and enthusiasm"

"No matter what I do, I am always good enough"

"I am lovable just because I exist"

Try these for a few days, and you will notice the difference!

Bye for now,

Isa

How Deep is your Love? Or True Love in the Tradition of Crocodile Dundee!

A new way to find out how much he really loves you.

Yesterday 4 April 2008

I read this article in the West Australian paper

MAN SAVES WIFE

FROM CROCODILE

Darwin

A man jumped on the back of a crocodile and poked it in the eyes to free his wife from its jaws during an attack.

Norm Moreen, 39, leapt on to the 2.5 m saltwater crocodile after it seized his wife, Wendy Petherick, from a river bank at Litchfied National Park, south-west of Darwin, yesterday.

"There was no time for fears, you see, when you want to save someone, especially someone you love," Mr. Moreen, who suffered only scratches, said.

Ms. Petherick, 36, suffered serious bite wounds to her legs, but helped her husband pry the reptiles's jaws open.

Now that's team work, don't you think?

Would your boyfriend or husband do the same for you?

A good question to ask, but you will never find out until it happens!

All my love,

Isa

Approval Addiction - Stop Being a People Pleaser

Soon I will start writing shorter articles, as I will be busy writing my new book on LOVE. I already have a notebook full of ideas, and hopefully God will help me put them all together in a readable form. It will be fun!
Today, I briefly want to talk about a disease that is widespread in our society: people-pleasing. And I admit without shame that I am a sufferer of this condition, and I know how painful it can be.
No matter how hard I try to please, I can never get it right. Especially with my partner. In his eyes, nothing's ever the way it should be. I feel I'll never be able to live up to his expectations, even though I'm sure that deep down, he means well. Maybe his intention is to improve things, maybe he wants his criticism to be "constructive". But I feel that he's not happy with me. He's not satisfied with who I am, with the way I do things. So I have to suppress myself, I have to deny my feelings and my needs, in order to fit the image of me that he has in his mind. An image that is unattainable, because I will never be able to be that way.
At times, I get the impression that his love is purely conditional, that I have to do things a certain way to be in his "good books". But it is a losing battle, because no matter how hard I try, it never works.
That's why I want to stop being a people pleaser. It's now or never.
I always thought that being nice, friendly, understanding and "trying my best" was a good way to get along with people, but these days I am more cautious. Others have taken advantage of me on numerous occasions, and even tried to destroy me because they sensed this "weakness" in me.
I am sad when I feel someone's disapproval, and it's enough to make me run away and never come back. That's why I had about a hundred jobs in my life. Now I only do agency nursing, and when I don't feel welcome in a place, when I don't feel liked, I just don't go back there...
I know it's not confronting the problem, but it's a way to survive.
At the moment, I find that I really need to find out who I am, and completely focus on myself to regain my self-esteem. I need to put an end to my approval addiction, my need to please others at my own expense. I need to regain a sense of self, a sense of purpose.
My relationship is not always what I thought it would be. I often feel disillusioned, and even wonder whether I should continue it at all. Sometimes I dream of being on my own, of finally being able to build my self-worth. I dream of doing things for me only, without having to worry about my partner.
My relationship is on the brink of disaster. I know it sounds pathetic, especially for someone who wants to write a book on love. But we don't always live what we preach. After all we're only human, and we're fallible. And I'm aware I can fall very low. But I will pick myself up eventually.
Being happy is not about denying our true feelings. That would be dishonest. Honesty is the first step towards change.
When I try to please my partner, I attempt to control what's outside my sphere of influence. I can try to make him happy, but it won't work. We're all responsible for our own happiness. No matter what I do, it won't change the way he acts towards me. It won't make him more understanding towards me. Approval seeking is a fruitless exercise, and it won't get me anywhere.
Maybe I should try to please myself for a change. What do I want? What do I need? What's important to me? I can live my life according to my own values, my own principles, knowing that I'm doing the right thing. If it's right for me, it's right for everyone else.
Instead of being a people-pleaser, I want to be a lover of wisdom, a seeker of truth.
I want to be happy now, because I'm worth it, no matter what other people think of me. It may sound selfish, but is there anything wrong with that? I think we women are not selfish enough. We always give, give, give. But what about receiving? What about giving to ourselves?
Today I can give to myself the love and approval I need. I can love myself unconditionally, and I can approve of myself no matter what I do.
Thank you for reading this.
Bye for now,
Isa